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Darkness

on March 18, 2026

Darkness Self-abandonment Solution Unhappiness

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Nobody

on March 12, 2026

Humility Self (ego) Self-abandonment

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Enthusiasm

on February 10, 2026

Problems Self-abandonment Self-forgetting Solutions

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Help

on February 06, 2026

Self-abandonment Solution Step Twelve (carrying the message)

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Service keeps you sane

on January 25, 2026

Self-abandonment Service

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Secession

on December 30, 2025

God-reliance Self-abandonment Self-reliance

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Obligation

on December 19, 2025

Consideration Obligations Self-abandonment

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Wanting screen

on November 08, 2025

Commitment Self-abandonment Surrender Wanting

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Treasure

on October 14, 2025

Giving Self-abandonment Spiritual basis Surrender

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Obsession

on October 08, 2025

Obsession Relationships Self-abandonment

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Kitchen

on July 03, 2025

Self-abandonment Step Ten Step Twelve

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Want

on May 16, 2025

God Self-abandonment Thinking Wanting

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Abandoning myself

on April 02, 2025

Al-Anon Self (ego) Self-abandonment

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Dividing up the day

on March 19, 2025

Action Al-Anon Self-abandonment

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Domination

on December 04, 2024

Motivation / motives Self-abandonment Spiritual principles

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Abandonment

on November 11, 2024

Al-Anon Boundaries Detachment Self-abandonment

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All

on August 18, 2024

Self-abandonment Step Six

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Bugles

on July 01, 2024

Al-Anon God-reliance Self-abandonment

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What is hell?

on May 24, 2024

Self-abandonment Self-absorption Self-reliance

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Less

on April 02, 2024

Al-Anon God-reliance Self-abandonment Self-obsession Service

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