“My wife and I abandoned ourselves” (Page 15, Big Book)
The other day someone talked about exiting a relationship because it was a source of obsession.
In a sense that’s right, and in a sense that’s wrong.
The relationship that is the source of obsession does need to be left, but it is not the relationship with the other person: it is the relationship with self.
It is self producing the obsession, not the other person.
If one removes the person, the obsession-producing-entity is still intact and will find another object.