“My wife and I abandoned ourselves with enthusiasm to the idea of helping other alcoholics to a solution of their problems.” (Big Book, Chapter 1)
The best way to look after myself is to serve God through constructive help of others.
Not the others I want to fix for my purposes.
And not others who want human help as a substitute for legitimate self-reliance and proper God-reliance.
There are times I must help because someone cannot do something on their own.
There are times I must help because such help assists them in acquiring independence.