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How to get out of hell

What is hell? Hell is one's own mind when it's under the control of the ego. Here's an actual picture of the inside of my brain before recovery: How can you tell it's under the control of the ego? Desire, excitement, tension, fear, anxiety, grievance, resentment, guilt, shame, etc. None of what follows is novel or new, and I've written about these matters many times before, but it does no harm to periodically update the list and ensure it is furnished with my latest experiences and tips. What is set out below is basically everything I have tried that has worked plus a few things that really do not help. Have a good daily programme Pages 84 to 88 of the Big Book  cover comprehensively how to structure and manage the day, from the moment one gets up in the morning until one goes to sleep at night. I will not rehash those four pages here, save to say the content falls under the headings of Steps Ten and Eleven, which can be read about comprehensively here and here . P...

Wrest vs come

When helping doesn't help

Perfect

Desire

Wormtongue

Collaboration

Balloon

Despair

Stem

Obscurity

Real or fancied

Peel me a grape

Victimhood, rage, and control

Needs, purposes, and schemes

Black and sulking silence

Greater than ourselves

Silence

Enthusiasm

Al-Anon unmanageability

There (really) is a solution

Walkie, not talkie

The effect

Was Jung right?

Insanity vs compulsion

Everyone's having a hard time

Strength and intelligence

Ease and comfort

Myth-busting 2.0

Jealousy in relationships

Emotional sobriety

Good grief

Ground–consequent vs cause–effect