“I allow my mind to keep filled with grievances, and the more I think of them, the bigger they loom.” (ODAT, 5 May)
Even thinking of grievances (or fears), let alone talking about them, in an effort to ‘process’ them, does not work for me. This just amplifies them.
For me, what is permitted is very brief inventory (which takes a couple of minutes). I might share the findings. But then I stow the matter, go to God, and find something else to do. I make myself useful. Anything but think—or talk—about the matter. As I get distance from it, the reframing I have asked God for is given to me.