“If someone dislikes me, or resents something I have done, I ought first to consider whether it was I who generated the dislike or resentment. Was it something I did? Is it something I should make amends for?” (ODAT, 14 January)
When someone ‘abandons me’, my question: what makes me so abandonable?
When someone ‘disappoints me’, my question: why am I so unrealistic?
When someone ‘frustrates me’, my question: why am I so unreasonable?
If it's on my plate, I probably ordered it.