“They lead to frustration because we’re not in control—of anyone or anything but ourselves.” (ODAT, 3 December)
What is the self I am in control of?
What I believe, think, and do.
I choose new beliefs based on the authority of those who seem to be making a better hash of things than me.
I choose new thinking and behaviour also based on what demonstrably works in others.
Change these, and everything changes.