“No adult man or woman, for example, should be in too much emotional dependence upon a parent. They should have been weaned long before, and if they have not been, they should wake up to the fact. This very form of faulty dependence …” (Page 38, Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions)
Faulty emotional dependence sounds like the dependent person is in a subservient position. Quite the reverse is true. The domestic tyrant is the one whose emotions depend on the behaviour of others, and, without them even needing to say a word, they thereby control the behaviour of others, who consciously or unconsciously alter their conduct to avoid the outburst, the sulk, the glare.
The jailor is indeed jailed, but the jailed is jailed because they are a jailor: that’s the source of the problem.