“Any marriage made in expectation of lifelong bliss and freedom from care is bound to bring us to some shocking realizations that life just isn’t like that.” (ODAT, 19 September)
I used to complain about my other half. What did I expect when we got together and eventually got married?
To marry a human being then expect them to be inhumanly perfect (in accordance with my notion of perfection) is folly.
The charge, even if valid, would really be against myself and my picking ability.
But that’s not the point.
Whatever I’m ‘putting up with’ is just what I and not anyone else is ‘putting up with’ in their marriage; if I were married to someone else, there would be something else.
Furthermore, my other half—as I have been reminded—could make a list as well.
To complain about others’ defects when I have defects is hypocrisy.
As ever, the job is to detach and then work on improving my own character.