“It is of little use to argue and only makes the impasse worse.” (Pages 126–127, Big Book)
When I’m explaining something I’ve done, there’s often dirty work afoot.
Either I’m trying to get someone to excuse me for doing something wrong.
Or I’m trying to convince myself that wrong is right.
Or I’m trying to relieve someone’s misunderstanding when the problem is not misunderstanding but resistance: if it needs to be explained, they won’t accept even a compelling explanation.
In all three cases I’m wasting my time.