“Before we begin, we ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity, dishonest or self-seeking motives.” (Page 86, Big Book)
Self-pity: upset that I have not got my way.
Self-seeking motives: wanting to get my own way.
Dishonest motives: concealing the fact I want to get my own way.
All three are about my way.
Divorce implies I was married.
Each day I remarry my own way.
Each morning I must be divorced anew.