Other people's upset is none of my business.
If they're upset, I assess my behaviour from the point of view of morality, custom, and strategy. If the behaviour is sound, that's the end of it.
I do not need to justify, defend, explain, or express intentions (J.E.D.I. mind tricks).
Unhappy people are unhappy not because of me but because of them.
They blame me to get rid of their own guilt.
Untreated alcoholics are impossible to please, so I don't even try.