CAP: complete acceptance of powerlessness

“Al-Anon tells me that complete acceptance of my powerlessness to change the alcoholic can, indeed, create a new life for me. When I really let go and stop playing God, things will begin to happen.” (ODAT, 14 May)

How do I know what I haven’t accepted my powerlessness over?

What I’m thinking about: scheming, plotting, figuring out, asking other people if they’ve been in the same situation, securing ‘advice’.

These are always based on the illusion that, if I find the right formula, I’ll change their behaviour.

I cannot.