I could not make good decisions until I had completed the first nine steps and was spending plenty of time sponsoring and in prayer and meditation.
Then, what to do was obvious. If I'm asking others, it means I don't know, and, when I don't know, the conditions for knowing have not been established.
I would recommend a full run through the Twelve Steps:
Admission of powerlessness
Surrender to God
Full moral inventory
Confession
Amends
Prayer
Meditation
Service