Discussie

The Dutch word ‘discussie’ is a so-called false friend: it looks like it means ‘discussion’, and indeed does mean that, in a way, but it means an argumentative discussion, not a neutral one.

In the competitive environment of treating alcoholism and other conditions, there are approaches other than AA. I have a tendency to discuss these, and the discussion turns swiftly into argument. Tradition Ten suggests I have no opinion on other therapies or approaches, in as far as they are used by others. That’s an ‘outside issue’. I can quietly and without argument present, but only when asked directly, what other things have not worked for me. Otherwise, I’m best off remaining silent.

“Upon therapy for the alcoholic himself, we surely have no monopoly. Yet it is our great hope that all those who have as yet found no answer may begin to find one in the pages of this book and will presently join us on the high road to a new freedom.” (Foreword to the Second Edition, Big Book)

“More often than not, it is imperative that a man’s brain be cleared before he is approached, as he has then a better chance of understanding and accepting what we have to offer.” (The Doctor’s Opinion, Big Book)

My job is not to convince anyone of anything: in Step Twelve, all I do is offer. When I have a problem and I go to someone for a solution, my job is to understand and, if i will, accept it. There is no discussion.