I used to be like this:
- World: Does something
- Me: Feels something
I learned that:
- World: Does something
- Me: Interprets the something
- Me: Feels something
As, mercifully, I'm not powerless over people, places, and things (just some aspects of some people, places, and things), I can often change the somethings. There are lots of somethings that used to be in my life that are no longer in my life.
More importantly: I can change the interpretation of the somethings.
That's why, today, how I feel is under my control, not people, places, and things.