Traditions in Relationships Q&A: 12

When to take the leap of commitment like moving in?

From Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions:

AA has many single alcoholics who wish to marry and are in a position to do so. Some marry fellow AA’s. How do they come out? On the whole these marriages are very good ones. Their common suffering as drinkers, their common interest in AA and spiritual things, often enhance such unions. It is only where “boy meets girl on AA campus,” and love follows at first sight, that difficulties may develop. The prospective partners need to be solid AA’s and long enough acquainted to know that their compatibility at spiritual, mental, and emotional levels is a fact and not wishful thinking. They need to be as sure as possible that no deep-lying emotional handicap in either will be likely to rise up under later pressures to cripple them. The considerations are equally true and important for the AA’s who marry “outside” AA With clear understanding and right, grown-up attitudes, very happy results do follow.