I used to have two problems.
The first problem was having a problem.
The second problem was thinking that the problem was the alcoholic, other people, or the world.
Until the second problem is solved, the first problem cannot be solved.
To solve the second problem, I have to stop blaming the alcoholic, other people, or the world.
I then have to stop talking about them.
I then have to stop thinking about them.
Al-Anon meetings are like a game where, as soon as I'm discussing them, I've lost.
The game may appear to continue, but nothing is happening.
It's all delusion.
Once I stop thinking about them, I'm confronted with the real problem.
Namely: trying to 'make it' without God as my purpose.
Then, the solution is easy and obvious.