If the purpose of a relationship is to find peace, that is what people will find.
If the purpose of a relationship is to find pain, that is what people will find.
If you're finding pain in a relationship, that's what you want.
If you're finding peace in a relationship, that's what you want.
This is why no one can help someone 'fix' or 'solve' a relationship with problems.
The problem is the solution to another problem: how to get rid of the guilt of separation from God.
How is this done?
Conjure pain and blame the other person for it.
This is why the problem can never be solved.
Anyone who thinks they can solve a person's relationship problems, or seeks to do so, cannot.
They do not understand that the problem is really a solution.
What can you do?
Give up. Go to God. An entirely new relationship with the individual must be created.
By God, through the individual.
The old one must go completely.
No one need notice any of this happening as it is happening.
But the result will be clear.