I can find it hard to identify my own behaviours. Here's a checklist:
1. Arguing, bickering, needling (deliberate provocation)
2. Bitching, gossiping, indiscretion, oversharing
3. Boasting, showing off, attention-seeking
4. Brusqueness, impatience, impoliteness, bad-temperedness
5. Coldness, hostility, ignoring, cold-shouldering
6. Complaining, whining, grumbling
7. Criticism, verbal attack and abuse
8. Defensiveness, self-justification, explanations, excuse-making
9. Directing, making demands, and pleading
10. Dominating conversations, flooding, bulldozing
11. Fishing for compliments or validation, eliciting pity
12. Flattery, ingratiation, expressing good intentions
13. Inconsistency, failure to follow through on commitments
14. Indifference towards others' welfare, inconsiderateness, dismissiveness
15. Indiscretion with third-party information, playing people off against one another
16. Inflexibility, stubbornness, intransigence
17. Laziness, not pulling one’s weight in the home, neglect
18. Lying or withholding or distorting the truth
19. Offering unsolicited advice, fixing, meddling
20. Physical violence, damage to property
21. Punishment, retaliation, and bullying
22. Sarcasm, mockery, cruelty, and malice
23. Stealing, presumptuous ‘borrowing’, or interference with others’ property
24. Taking charge, pulling rank, bossing around
25. Using guilt or incentives to control others’ behaviour