Emotions are like the smell that a plant gives off.
The smell is not creating the plant.
The plant is creating the smell.
The smell is not autonomous.
And it's not coming from anyone else's plant, either.
The smell of a plant is coming from ... that plant.
What the plant?
What I believe, what I value, what I think, what I say, and what I do.
Don't like what I smell?
Change what I believe, value, think, say, and do!
To be clear:
Whatever I'm feeling is coming from me, not from anyone or anything else.
My feelings are not creating my beliefs, my values, my thoughts, my words, my actions.
My feelings are the effect of these: they are the most perceptible, tangible facet of these things.