I have written before about how sloppy language impedes recovery.
Here are some more examples:
Emotional body
We do not have an emotional body. We have a body. Emotions have physical correlates, and mental / emotional states do somatise physically: headaches, for instance, are often experienced following a period of protracted tension. Stomach upsets can be associated with fear.
Here's an example of a definition of the emotional body:
The emotional body is the bridge between the physical and the mental. It represents our feelings and relationship to all things. It includes the nervous system, hormones, touch, water release, and water absorption.
You can tell immediately it is mumbo-jumbo from a number of factors: for instance, figurative language (a bridge) is used to define other figurative language. We're building an abstract structure here. We're not describing a thing in the world but creating an illusion. It represents our feelings and relationship to all things. Does it represent my relationship to chicken McNuggets? To a small piece of tissue stuck to my shoe? What does represent mean? It's a symbol? Of my relationship to all things? My relationship to all things is essentially the totality of my experience in the material world. How can something represent all of that?
This is meaningless and gets us nowhere.
Abandonment of self
There is only one me. I cannot abandon myself, because I am a single being. Abandonment requires two entities.
What can be meant, e.g. in Al-Anon, is suppressing desires, thoughts, impulses, etc., in favour of others. Now, because abandonment is clearly a bad thing (so children should never be abandoned by the side of the road), the language presupposes that to suppress a desire, a thought, an impulse, etc., is a bad thing.
This is obviously nonsense. If the desire is to punch someone in the face, this should obviously be suppressed. If the desire is to go to bed because one is tired, this should obviously be listened to.
The job is to assess the desire, the thought, the impulse and to identify whether it can and should be followed, and then to follow through with action.
This particular piece of terminology is also dramatic: abandonment is a very extreme action, the moral dereliction of failing to provide due care to an infant or invalid.
In the area of spiritual growth, one should be careful of dramatising one's situation. The drama can actually be an incentive to remain in the problem, because it's flattering and exciting: the hero of the dream.
My feelings are valid
Feelings are not liable to be valid or invalid, any more than an artichoke or a piece of Formica can be valid or invalid. Feelings are the emotional correlate of a thought, and thoughts, if they are representations of states of affairs, certainly can be valid or invalid. If they are true, they are valid; if they are untrue, they are invalid.
If my other half ignores me, and I conclude he does not love me, and I am incorrect, the thought is invalid. The feeling is not valid or invalid but is merely what accompanies the thought.
Stuffing feelings
Feelings obviously cannot be stuffed. Next time you're angry, frightened, guilty, ashamed, or depressed, command yourself: Eliminate this feeling! You will never succeed.
The premise is quite false.
Of course, one can distract oneself, by redirecting attention or substituting another mental or physical activity.
Now, if something upsetting happens, and I do not process the upset by using inventory to identify where my thinking is wrong, and correcting that, and possibly taking corrective practical measures, the thought and associated feeling will later recur, often in an unrelated situation.
However, if I react badly to something, e.g. a fear reaction in response to an uncertainty about a trip, and process it, recognising that the fear thought is invalid for a thousand reasons, absolutely the right thing to do is to disregard and overlook and actively reject any recurring fear thoughts.
Denial is a destructive mechanism in certain situations and a powerful and effective tool in others.