I never put up with anything ...
... because the thing I think I have to put up with is always under my control.
How can that be the case?
The thing I think I have to put up with is actually what I'm thinking about the thing.
And I needn't put up with any particular thought.
If I do not like it, I can reject it.
It is the thought about the thing that is the real thing causing the problem.
Once I change the thought I'm thinking about the thing ...
... I can see whether the thing itself also needs changing.
Often it does not.