I used to get very upset at the notion of defects
I would try to avoid referring to defects as defects
I would use all sorts of other terms, e.g. defence mechanisms, traits, etc.
I would downplay them: traits that used to serve me
Note that they never served me
If they had, they would not have been defects
The programme encourages me to look at the truth squarely
This means that, if something is a defect, I must say it is and not dress it up as something else
If a habit of belief, thought, or behaviour is unhelpful or harmful to me or others, it is a defect
Uncover, discover, and discard
Why the reluctance to call a spade a spade?
Several reasons:
The chief reason, hurt pride: I did not like the notion that there was anything wrong with me
Ironically, I was right
Why?
There is nothing wrong with the carpenter if one of his tools is ill-suited to the job or broken
If I have a thousand defects, there is still nothing wrong with me
There is something wrong with my belief, thought, or behaviour
It does not serve the carpenter to present the broken hammer as anything other than one
It serves the carpenter to recognise the hammer is broken
And mend or discard it
The more defects I find in me, the better
The more I find, the more can be discarded
In inventory I discover not everything I am but everything I am not
That is why there should be no coyness
No dancing around the truth
Face and be rid of what blocks me
From what I actually am