In inventory, don't use sloppy language.
Instead of I manipulated, write what you did and what your goal was.
Instead of I people-pleased, write what you did and what your goal was.
Instead of He gaslighted me, write what he said.
Instead of I want respect, write what you want them specifically to do.
The same goes for the following:
- Abuse, abusive
- Abandon(ment)
- Abandon myself
- Affect (me)
- Discriminate, discrimination
- Emotionally (un)available
- Harassed
- Love
- Misbehaviour
- Misconduct
- Narcissistic
- Safe
- Show up
- Toxic, toxicity
- Trauma
- Triggered, triggering
- Unhealthy
- Unsafe
- Victim(ised)
- Toxic
When I write inventory, I stick to the FACTS:
- Factual
- Accurate
- Concise
- Truthful
- Specific
I avoid:
- Figurative
- Abstract
- Poetic
- Vague
... language, wherever possible.
I also avoid therapeutic, psychological, religious, new age, or medical jargon.
Keep it simple!