The thing to remember with conflict situations, whether in a family, an AA group, or another setting, is that the reason there is conflict is because the participants are invested in there being conflict. Unless the investment in conflict is resolved, the conflict can only be shifted. Resolve one manifestation, and another will arise.
Conflict situations arise where people feel ill at ease and decide to fix, change, or control something outside of themselves. This will fail, which casts the fixer, changer, or controller as the victim, and the resisting force as the perpetrator. The dis-ease is projected outwards, leaving the individual clean, innocent, and holy, and the other as the enemy.
If you find a conflict situation ... run.
Instead, desire peace and find other people who desire peace.
You can't have peace with someone who does not desire it.
How do you know the person you are with desires peace? Because that is what they extend to you.