Sometimes group are full of tripwires. You don't realise there are tripwires till you trip one and the group police come trotting up to you to inform you of your derelictions.
My home group is a wonderful mess. That's why I like it. Everyone's themselves, and there's no policing. There are a couple of boundaries (five-minutes shares, removal of Zoom bombers), but that's kinda it. Long live simplicity.