'Killer whales are trained by rewarding them for what they do well but leaving what they do badly silently unacknowledged.'
The person who helps me a lot in Al-Anon ignores a lot of incoming messages, including from me. My other half does the same. They're not being rude. They're being sane.
There's enough to do already without rubbernecking or yanking weeds out of other people's yards.