Why are you bothered about others' judgements?
Because I will think ill of myself if they think ill of me.
But who chose the people whose judgements you are basing your own self-image on?
I did.
And you disregard the views of those who support you, even if they're in the majority?
I do.
So, let me get this right, you've handpicked a small number of people to base your own negative self-image on.
Yes.
But their negative judgement affects you only if you judge their negative judgement to be right.
Yes.
So you're really judging yourself but construing yourself as a victim of their judgement.
Yes.
So the real question is, why are you so invested in thinking ill of yourself?
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