It is not always obvious I am in an ego state. Anger, fear, resentment, guilt, and shame are pretty obvious markers of ego states.
Here are some others:
- Questioning, analysing, figuring out
- Thinking about how to change something external
- Thinking about the past
- Thinking about the future
- Planning, plotting, scheming
Here are some alternatives:
- Come back to the present
- Do what is in front of me
- Be cheerful
- Be useful
- Be kind
- Be grateful
- Recognise God's presence