These is the approach I follow:
When taking Step Nine with someone you are not in regular contact with, approach them with tact and consideration.
To to this, approach them in writing explaining why you are in contact with them.
If you do not explain why you are contacting them, they have no cause to reply, as you are not someone they are in regular contact with.
Secondly, if you have harmed them, they may not perceive you benevolently.
Do not, therefore, say, 'I would like to talk to you' or 'Can we meet for coffee?' without further explanation.
If you explain you would like to make amends or apologise for past poor behaviour, they are more likely to respond.
If necessary, make clear there are no ulterior motives.
Offer them the choice of how to receive the amend: in person, by telephone or similar, or in writing.
Say that you quite understand if they do not wish to have further contact, but that, if you hear nothing, you will send through the amend in writing, which they may read or discard as they wish.
Then wish them well in any case.
Two weeks later or so, send the amend through in writing, expressing your openness to follow-up in person, by telephone or similar, or in writing.
When taking Step Nine with someone you are not in regular contact with, approach them with tact and consideration.
To to this, approach them in writing explaining why you are in contact with them.
If you do not explain why you are contacting them, they have no cause to reply, as you are not someone they are in regular contact with.
Secondly, if you have harmed them, they may not perceive you benevolently.
Do not, therefore, say, 'I would like to talk to you' or 'Can we meet for coffee?' without further explanation.
If you explain you would like to make amends or apologise for past poor behaviour, they are more likely to respond.
If necessary, make clear there are no ulterior motives.
Offer them the choice of how to receive the amend: in person, by telephone or similar, or in writing.
Say that you quite understand if they do not wish to have further contact, but that, if you hear nothing, you will send through the amend in writing, which they may read or discard as they wish.
Then wish them well in any case.
Two weeks later or so, send the amend through in writing, expressing your openness to follow-up in person, by telephone or similar, or in writing.