We asked ourselves why we were angry. In most cases it
was found that our self-esteem, our pocketbooks, our ambitions, our personal
relationships (including sex) were hurt or threatened. … (64:3)
On our grudge list we set opposite each name our
injuries. Was it our self-esteem, our security, our ambitions, our personal, or
sex relations, which had been interfered with? (65:1)
… pride [in the worked example]
If I have a resentment, I haven’t got my own way. Which area
is affected?
Scripts
If I don’t think others are treating me right, my personal
relations are affected.
If I’m not getting my own way sexually, my sexual
relations are affected.
Outcomes
If my needs are threatened, my security is affected.
If my income or property are threatened, my pocketbooks
are affected.
If I have a plan that has not come off, my ambitions
are affected.
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If I’m bothered by what others think about me, my pride
is affected.
If I feel ashamed or inadequate, my self-esteem is
affected.
The instruction
On each piece of paper, which has the name and the
resentment(s) at the top, write down which of these ‘areas of self’ are
affected (personal relations, sexual relations, security, pocketbooks,
ambitions, pride, self-esteem) in that relationship.
Realise I’m not resentful because of them, I’m resentful
because I have a plan, in other words I am playing God. To be happy I have to
drop my plans and serve God.