How to have a relationship

Good sources of information about how to drop the craziness and have healthy relationships:

Chapters 8 and 9 of the book Alcoholics Anonymous (plus certain other chapters)
One Day At A Time In Al-Anon
Rabbi Manis Friedman (books, audio books, Youtube)
Rabbi Harold Kushner (books, audio books)
Anna Kujawa & Early Purdy on 'special relationships' (Youtube)
Dr Paul O (AA speaker and the chapter 'Acceptance is the answer' in the book Alcoholics Anonymous)
Everyday Zen and Nothing Special by Yoko Beck
Walking on Water by Anthony de Mello

Motto: the solution lies in the solution not in the problem.