'The idea that somehow, someday he will control and enjoy his drinking is the great obsession of every abnormal drinker. The persistence of this illusion is astonishing. Many pursue it into the gates of insanity or death.' (Page 30, Alcoholics Anonymous)
What this means to me:
In active addiction, there is usually some degree of control possible, although it will be eroded in time. This may be reflected in periods of moderation or periods of abstinence.
However, if this is not 'enjoyable', it will not be sustained.
However, if one is 'enjoying' the addiction, i.e. 'relaxing into it' fully with no attempt at abstinence or moderation, it will produce consequences that outweigh the enjoyment.
In active addition, the two modes are miserable control or enjoyment which ultimately produces misery due to the consequences of being out of control.
What this means to me:
In active addiction, there is usually some degree of control possible, although it will be eroded in time. This may be reflected in periods of moderation or periods of abstinence.
However, if this is not 'enjoyable', it will not be sustained.
However, if one is 'enjoying' the addiction, i.e. 'relaxing into it' fully with no attempt at abstinence or moderation, it will produce consequences that outweigh the enjoyment.
In active addition, the two modes are miserable control or enjoyment which ultimately produces misery due to the consequences of being out of control.