Saturday, 3 March 2018

How to defuse upset

Take the upsetting narrative:

(1) Remove the speculation from the narrative (mind-reading, future-reading, etc.)

(2) Remove the interpretation (ascription of meaning, judgement) from the narrative.

(3) Remove the generalisation from the narrative.

(4) Remove the personalisation from the narrative.

What is left? Not a lot, frankly.

The dog is not barking at you in a threatening way. Sound waves are passing through the air.

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