(1) No, being miserable about the past, however awful it was, is not ‘part of life’ and ‘something you just have to accept’.
(2) No, the solution does not consist solely of ‘write it down’, ‘write it out’, or even ‘share about it’.
(3) When your clothes are dirty, the solution is not (just) to write a shopping list for fabric detergent and conditioner (or to share about your dirty clothes) but to take the list you’ve written, go to the shop, buy the products, and wash the clothes.
(4) When your mind is dirty with resentment, the solution involves writing out inventory and maybe sharing it but then following this up with:
(5) Dropping wholly unreasonable demands and expectations entirely.
(6) Downgrading excessive demands and expectations to reasonable preferences.
(6) Negotiating or taking action on reasonable preferences where possible.
(7) Accepting everything else as being exactly the way it is without complaint.
(8) Praying for a new attitude and for forgiveness towards the person or situation (see page 67 of the book ‘Alcoholics Anonymous’).
(9) Making amends where necessary.
(10) Keeping the mind free of old narratives by watching out for, spotting, and eliminating them at sight, through substitution of positive, grateful, outward- and service-oriented thinking and action.
(2) No, the solution does not consist solely of ‘write it down’, ‘write it out’, or even ‘share about it’.
(3) When your clothes are dirty, the solution is not (just) to write a shopping list for fabric detergent and conditioner (or to share about your dirty clothes) but to take the list you’ve written, go to the shop, buy the products, and wash the clothes.
(4) When your mind is dirty with resentment, the solution involves writing out inventory and maybe sharing it but then following this up with:
(5) Dropping wholly unreasonable demands and expectations entirely.
(6) Downgrading excessive demands and expectations to reasonable preferences.
(6) Negotiating or taking action on reasonable preferences where possible.
(7) Accepting everything else as being exactly the way it is without complaint.
(8) Praying for a new attitude and for forgiveness towards the person or situation (see page 67 of the book ‘Alcoholics Anonymous’).
(9) Making amends where necessary.
(10) Keeping the mind free of old narratives by watching out for, spotting, and eliminating them at sight, through substitution of positive, grateful, outward- and service-oriented thinking and action.