Saturday, 15 October 2016

STEP 12 CHAPTER 08 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS

Read the chapter once through then read it more carefully once again, answering the following questions.
Questions
Reference or answer
Do you have to born to, bear, or be married to an alcoholic to be affected by someone else’s drinking?
Page 104[1].
How has someone else’s drinking affected you practically?
Pages 104–107.
How has someone else’s drinking affected you emotionally?
Pages 104–107; 114:4; 116:1; 118:3–4.
How has someone else’s drinking affected your behaviour?
Pages 104–107; 114:4.
How has someone else’s drinking affected your thinking?
Pages 104–107; 114:4; 116:1; 118:3–4.
How has someone else’s drinking affected you morally?
Page 116:2–3.
If the alcoholic’s problem is the obsession he or she can ‘control and enjoy alcohol’, the candidate Al-Anon’s obsession is that he or she can ‘control and enjoy the alcoholic’. How does this manifest itself? What does the book say? What is your own experience?
Pages 105:1–2; 107:2.
‘…that strange world of alcoholism where everything is distorted and exaggerated …’: was your thinking distorted and exaggerated when you were drinking? Is it still distorted and exaggerated today?
Page 108:1.
Why does the alcoholic behave so badly? Is that behaviour reflective of who he or she really is?
Page 108:1.
What advice does the chapter give on how handle an alcoholic in general?
Do not condemn or criticise.
Do not tell someone what to do about his or her drinking.
Do not set your heart on reforming another.
Do not remind him or her of his or her spiritual deficiency.
Treat him or her as if he or she were sick.
Do not be angry—be of good temper.
Do not disagree in a resentful spirit.
Defuse or abort heated discussions.
Show patient, tolerance, understanding, and love.
Live and let live.
Show willingness to remedy defects.
What are the instructions on trying to help an alcoholic if you are not yourself a recovering or recovered alcoholic?
Pages 110–114.
How far does tolerance extend? Should you ever leave or drop a relationship because of someone’s alcoholism? In what circumstances?
Pages 108:3; 111:1; 114:3.
Which category of alcoholic did you fall into? Which category of alcohol do any still-drinking alcoholics in your life fall into?
Pages 107–110.
How do you explain a person’s alcoholism to friends, to children, or to others?
Page 115.
What advice does the chapter give on how to handle conflict or disagreement with another person?
Pages 117–118.
What advice does the chapter give on how to handle excessive expectations?
Page 118:2–3.
What advice does the chapter give on how to handle resentment?
Pages 116:0; 117:3; 118:4; 119:0.
What advice does the chapter give on how to handle jealousy?
Page 119:1.
What advice does the chapter give on how to handle isolation?
Page 119:2.
What should you think of?
Page 120:0.
What are the promises of this chapter?
E.g. pages 104:4; 111:3; 114:3; 115:2; 115:3; 116:1; 116:2; 116:3; 117:1; 117:2; 118:2; 119:2; 120:0.
How do you respond to a recovering alcoholic relapsing?
Page 120:1–3.
How do people sometimes try to stop an alcoholic from drinking? Does it work? What should they do instead?
Page 120:3.





[1] The page numbers denote pages in the book Alcoholics Anonymous. The numbers after the colon indicate the paragraph of the page in question. ‘1’ means the first full paragraph. ‘0’ means any run-on paragraph at the top of the page, which actually started on the previous page.

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