Read the chapter once through then read it more carefully
once again, answering the following questions.
Questions
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Reference or answer
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Do
you have to born to, bear, or be married to an alcoholic to be affected by someone
else’s drinking?
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Page
104[1].
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How has
someone else’s drinking affected you practically?
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Pages
104–107.
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How has
someone else’s drinking affected you emotionally?
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Pages
104–107; 114:4; 116:1; 118:3–4.
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How has
someone else’s drinking affected your behaviour?
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Pages
104–107; 114:4.
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How has
someone else’s drinking affected your thinking?
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Pages
104–107; 114:4; 116:1; 118:3–4.
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How has
someone else’s drinking affected you morally?
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Page
116:2–3.
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If
the alcoholic’s problem is the obsession he or she can ‘control and enjoy
alcohol’, the candidate Al-Anon’s obsession is that he or she can ‘control
and enjoy the alcoholic’. How does this manifest itself? What does the book
say? What is your own experience?
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Pages
105:1–2; 107:2.
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‘…that
strange world of alcoholism where everything is distorted and exaggerated …’:
was your thinking distorted and exaggerated when you were drinking? Is it
still distorted and exaggerated today?
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Page
108:1.
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Why
does the alcoholic behave so badly? Is that behaviour reflective of who he or
she really is?
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Page
108:1.
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What
advice does the chapter give on how handle an alcoholic in general?
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Do not condemn or criticise.
Do not tell someone what to do about his or her
drinking.
Do not set your heart on reforming another.
Do not remind him or her of his or her
spiritual deficiency.
Treat him or her as if he or she were sick.
Do not be angry—be of good temper.
Do not disagree in a resentful spirit.
Defuse or abort heated discussions.
Show patient, tolerance, understanding, and
love.
Live and let live.
Show willingness to remedy defects.
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What
are the instructions on trying to help an alcoholic if you are not yourself a
recovering or recovered alcoholic?
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Pages
110–114.
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How
far does tolerance extend? Should you ever leave or drop a relationship
because of someone’s alcoholism? In what circumstances?
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Pages
108:3; 111:1; 114:3.
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Which
category of alcoholic did you fall into? Which category of alcohol do any
still-drinking alcoholics in your life fall into?
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Pages
107–110.
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How
do you explain a person’s alcoholism to friends, to children, or to others?
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Page
115.
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What
advice does the chapter give on how to handle conflict or disagreement with
another person?
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Pages
117–118.
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What
advice does the chapter give on how to handle excessive expectations?
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Page
118:2–3.
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What
advice does the chapter give on how to handle resentment?
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Pages
116:0; 117:3; 118:4; 119:0.
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What
advice does the chapter give on how to handle jealousy?
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Page
119:1.
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What
advice does the chapter give on how to handle isolation?
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Page
119:2.
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What
should you think of?
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Page
120:0.
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What
are the promises of this chapter?
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E.g.
pages 104:4; 111:3; 114:3; 115:2; 115:3; 116:1; 116:2; 116:3; 117:1; 117:2; 118:2;
119:2; 120:0.
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How
do you respond to a recovering alcoholic relapsing?
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Page
120:1–3.
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How
do people sometimes try to stop an alcoholic from drinking? Does it work?
What should they do instead?
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Page
120:3.
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[1]
The page numbers denote pages in the book Alcoholics
Anonymous. The numbers after the colon indicate the paragraph of the page
in question. ‘1’ means the first full paragraph. ‘0’ means any run-on
paragraph at the top of the page, which actually started on the previous page.