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Questions
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Answers
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Why
do we carry this message to others?
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To
stay sober.
To
reap the spiritual benefits.
Because
we can help where no one else can.
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What
do we have to remember when working with others?
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They
are very sick.
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Where
and what are the Step Twelve promises?
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Page
89:2.
Page
100:1.
Page
100:4.
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What
are the general spiritual principles of public information work?
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Do
not be an evangelist or a reformer.
Do
not criticise.
Cooperate.
Aim
only to help.
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In
which two domains does AA look for alcoholics to help?
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Medicine
and religion—although there are other domains today (employment, charitable
sector, prisons, probation services, etc.). Today, alcoholics are found
through the AA service structure, so get a role within the AA service
structure.
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What
are the general principles of twelfth stepping someone?
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1.
Once you have established contact, let them initiate
all further contact.
2.
Put yourself in the shoes of the person you are
approaching and ask yourself how you would like to be approached if the
tables were turned.
3.
Communicate with them at their level.
4.
Be sane, quiet, and full of human understanding.
5.
Do not try to convince them they are an alcoholic.
6.
If they do not want to stop for good, do not try to
persuade them.
7.
If they are not willing to go to any lengths, do not
proceed.
8.
Do not hurry them.
9.
Do not offer a solution until they ask for it, but
when they do, be candid about the solution and do not hold back.
10.
Do not try and fix their other problems.
11.
Do not suggest AA has a monopoly on recovery.
12.
If they are willing to proceed, use your experience
to guide them.
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How
do you actually go about twelfth stepping someone, practically?
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Pages
90–96.
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How
do you deal with the family of an alcoholic?
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Suggest
they be patient.
Suggest
they remember they are dealing with a sick person.
Suggest
they not be over-anxious.
Warn
against arousing resentment or jealousy.
Warn
them not to prompt or prod the alcoholic.
Suggest
they be grateful for the alcoholic’s sobriety—if, of course, they are sober!
Offer
them the programme (today, through Al-Anon).
Do
not participate in the family’s arguments.
Give
advice only through the sharing of experience.
Do
not criticise.
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What
does the chapter say about the balance between relying on God and relying on
people?
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Rely
on God ahead of relying on people.
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What
are the two conditions for getting well?
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Trust
in God; clean house.
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How
should a person behave in the home?
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Not
be concerned with others’ faults.
Concentrate
on one’s own spiritual development.
Do
not argue.
Be
sober, considerate, and helpful regardless of what someone says and does.
Repair
the damage immediately if we get something wrong.
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What
is the advice to separated couples?
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Page
99.
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What
does the chapter say about going to drinking places?
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If
there is a legitimate reason for being somewhere, go, but go in the right
spirit (positive and giving). If not on solid spiritual ground, do not go,
and find an alcoholic to help, instead.
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What
attitude should we have in general towards drinking?
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Page
103.
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What
is the last piece of advice in the chapter?
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Stop
fighting anything or anyone.
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