Saturday, 8 October 2016

STEP 12 CHAPTER 07 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS


Questions
Answers
Why do we carry this message to others?
To stay sober.
To reap the spiritual benefits.
Because we can help where no one else can.
What do we have to remember when working with others?
They are very sick.
Where and what are the Step Twelve promises?
Page 89:2.
Page 100:1.
Page 100:4.
What are the general spiritual principles of public information work?
Do not be an evangelist or a reformer.
Do not criticise.
Cooperate.
Aim only to help.
In which two domains does AA look for alcoholics to help?
Medicine and religion—although there are other domains today (employment, charitable sector, prisons, probation services, etc.). Today, alcoholics are found through the AA service structure, so get a role within the AA service structure.
What are the general principles of twelfth stepping someone?
1.       Once you have established contact, let them initiate all further contact.
2.       Put yourself in the shoes of the person you are approaching and ask yourself how you would like to be approached if the tables were turned.
3.       Communicate with them at their level.
4.       Be sane, quiet, and full of human understanding.
5.       Do not try to convince them they are an alcoholic.
6.       If they do not want to stop for good, do not try to persuade them.
7.       If they are not willing to go to any lengths, do not proceed.
8.       Do not hurry them.
9.       Do not offer a solution until they ask for it, but when they do, be candid about the solution and do not hold back.
10.    Do not try and fix their other problems.
11.    Do not suggest AA has a monopoly on recovery.
12.    If they are willing to proceed, use your experience to guide them.
How do you actually go about twelfth stepping someone, practically?
Pages 90–96.
How do you deal with the family of an alcoholic?
Suggest they be patient.
Suggest they remember they are dealing with a sick person.
Suggest they not be over-anxious.
Warn against arousing resentment or jealousy.
Warn them not to prompt or prod the alcoholic.
Suggest they be grateful for the alcoholic’s sobriety—if, of course, they are sober!
Offer them the programme (today, through Al-Anon).
Do not participate in the family’s arguments.
Give advice only through the sharing of experience.
Do not criticise.
What does the chapter say about the balance between relying on God and relying on people?
Rely on God ahead of relying on people.
What are the two conditions for getting well?
Trust in God; clean house.
How should a person behave in the home?
Not be concerned with others’ faults.
Concentrate on one’s own spiritual development.
Do not argue.
Be sober, considerate, and helpful regardless of what someone says and does.
Repair the damage immediately if we get something wrong.
What is the advice to separated couples?
Page 99.
What does the chapter say about going to drinking places?
If there is a legitimate reason for being somewhere, go, but go in the right spirit (positive and giving). If not on solid spiritual ground, do not go, and find an alcoholic to help, instead.
What attitude should we have in general towards drinking?
Page 103.
What is the last piece of advice in the chapter?
Stop fighting anything or anyone.



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