Most people call it "doing a Step Ten" ... The best kept secret in the Big Book is the fact that the evening review (really a focused meditation) is actually part of Step Eleven. Really? Check it out! (Small print: by the time the 12 x 12 is written, it has been silently shifted to Step Ten.)
Here's what was passed down to me based on page 86:
At the end of the day, carry out a 5–10 minute review of the period since the last review. This is part of the evening meditation. Start with realising that a loving God is present with you. Then ask God to show you the truth. Do not beat yourself up for what you find.
• Were we resentful, selfish, dishonest or afraid? Pick the top one of each and resolve to discuss with a sponsor or friend the next morning.
• Do we owe an apology? Make a list of people to apologise or make amends to the next day, where applicable.
• Have we kept something to ourselves which should be discussed with another person at once? Make a list of such matters and whom they will be discussed with.
• Were we kind and loving toward all? What could we have done better?
• Were we thinking of ourselves most of the time? Or were we thinking of what we could do for others, of what we could pack into the stream of life?
• Be careful not to drift into worry, remorse or morbid reflection, for that would diminish our usefulness to others.
• Ask God's forgiveness (and know that it will be totally given).
• Inquire (of God) what corrective measures should be taken. Keep it simple (a couple will do). Check them out with someone with more experience in the programme if you are new to this or unsure.
Here's what was passed down to me based on page 86:
At the end of the day, carry out a 5–10 minute review of the period since the last review. This is part of the evening meditation. Start with realising that a loving God is present with you. Then ask God to show you the truth. Do not beat yourself up for what you find.
• Were we resentful, selfish, dishonest or afraid? Pick the top one of each and resolve to discuss with a sponsor or friend the next morning.
• Do we owe an apology? Make a list of people to apologise or make amends to the next day, where applicable.
• Have we kept something to ourselves which should be discussed with another person at once? Make a list of such matters and whom they will be discussed with.
• Were we kind and loving toward all? What could we have done better?
• Were we thinking of ourselves most of the time? Or were we thinking of what we could do for others, of what we could pack into the stream of life?
• Be careful not to drift into worry, remorse or morbid reflection, for that would diminish our usefulness to others.
• Ask God's forgiveness (and know that it will be totally given).
• Inquire (of God) what corrective measures should be taken. Keep it simple (a couple will do). Check them out with someone with more experience in the programme if you are new to this or unsure.