". . . the basic text (pages 1 through 164) remains unchanged. This is the AA message."
"The Twelve Steps that summarise the programme . . ."
"A much more important demonstration of our principles lies before us in our respective homes, occupations, and affairs." (19:1)"The spiritual life is not a theory. We have to live it." (83:2)
"Most of us sense that real tolerance of other people's shortcomings and viewpoints and a respect for their opinions are attitudes which make us more useful to others." (19:4)
"Each group had the right to be wrong" (Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, Tradition 4:4)
"Love and tolerance of others is our code." (84:2)
"And we have ceased fighting anything or anyone—even alcohol." (84:3)
"We do not mean that you have to agree with your husband whenever there is an honest difference of opinion. Just be careful not to disagree in a resentful or critical spirit." (117:3)
"So cooperate; never criticize." (89:3)
"Our best defence in these situations would be no defence whatever—namely, complete silence at the public level." (Concept XII)
"It is of little use to argue and only makes the impasse worse." (126:3)
"If you cooperate, rather than complain, you will find that his excess enthusiasm will tone down." (119:2)
"We find the more one member of the family demands that the others concede to him, the more resentful they become. This makes for discord and unhappiness." (122:1)
"As in war, the victor only seemed to win. Our moments of triumph were short-lived." (66:1)
"Though his family be at fault in many respects, he should not be concerned about that. He should concentrate on his own spiritual demonstration. Argument and fault-finding are to be avoided like the plague. In many homes this is a difficult thing to do, but it must be done if any results are to be expected. If persisted in for a few months, the effect on a man's family is sure to be great. The most incompatible people discover they have a basis upon which they can meet. Little by little the family may see their own defects and admit them. These can then be discussed in an atmosphere of helpfulness and friendliness." (98:3)