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How to get out of hell

What is hell? Hell is one's own mind when it's under the control of the ego. Here's an actual picture of the inside of my brain before recovery: How can you tell it's under the control of the ego? Desire, excitement, tension, fear, anxiety, grievance, resentment, guilt, shame, etc. None of what follows is novel or new, and I've written about these matters many times before, but it does no harm to periodically update the list and ensure it is furnished with my latest experiences and tips. What is set out below is basically everything I have tried that has worked plus a few things that really do not help. Have a good daily programme Pages 84 to 88 of the Big Book  cover comprehensively how to structure and manage the day, from the moment one gets up in the morning until one goes to sleep at night. I will not rehash those four pages here, save to say the content falls under the headings of Steps Ten and Eleven, which can be read about comprehensively here and here . P...

Is relapse necessary?

Conception

Look to yourself

A wrench for every nut

What's sponsorship for once the Steps have been done?

Repeating first grade

Overtures

The world and the theatre

The Happening

"Automatic reaction"

Trojan Horse

Two-way mirror

Directly

Q: How do you stay in the moment?

Q: What do I do when they cross my boundaries?

Choice

Al-Anon's fourth C

Camden Town

Hit it till the nail goes in

Asymmetrical

The Hand

Boundaries

Who removes defects?

Higher law

God's way or my way

Preoccupation

Attitude

Confidence and courage

Mental obsession

Automatic resolution

Epiphanies

Meaning

Anxiety

Fact-finding

Let go and let God

But I hadn't finished!

Perspective

Study and right action

JEDI

Nonsense

Love and detachment

A talk from Birmingham ...

Spirit > Reason > Impulse

Courtesy

Constant

Primary purpose

Insanity

Al-Anon Q: Do I have to play dumb?

Let it break

What is next?

See and do

Through a glass darkly

No mental defence

Inside not outside

Surrender 2.0

Gratitude vs resentment

Transcendence

999

Al-Anon Q: “… I don’t have that issue …”

Al-Anon Q: How do you know when it's time to walk away?

Al-Anon Q: What if the alcoholic has no one else? I feel I cannot walk away.

Get off the rails!

ZEST

The making of the world

Thinking

Detachment. And then?

Sustenance

Where was I to blame?

Gush! Shush!

Leverage and lift

Aim

Al-Anon slips

Ultimate reality

JEDI

Painstaking

Time-wasting

The book came first

Inside out

Dark and light

Do nothing

PLBB: who is it for?

Advice

How am I doing?

Dog