“In our group discussions we avoid long recitals about the misbehavior of the alcoholic, because they do not promote our growth.” (ODAT, 6 May)
Or indeed any recitals or rehearsals.
I have previously thought I needed to ‘talk about’ him or her or it or them.
That’s not the subject matter.
The subject matter is my errors in thinking about him, her, it, or them, or even me, come to that.
That I can talk about—and do—ad nauseam.
But that is where the solution is.
I wish that line could be read out at meetings. But I don’t think the proposal would go down very well.