“But it is clear that we made our own misery. God didn’t do it.” (Page 133, Big Book)
If I’m upset, I ask myself: “Is anything bad happening literally right now?” It never is. I must therefore conclude the feeling bad is caused by my thinking (the only two causal candidates being a present condition or my thinking).
That means, when I’m upset, my thinking is broken. It is telling me something is wrong when nothing is wrong.
If I am to find a way out, my first action is therefore to disavow my thinking, to laugh at it.
I say, “I obviously do not know how to think. God, please give me a replacement thought.”
PS I met someone who said they were upset because they were in the middle of a divorce. I looked around the room, but I could not see the divorce. I concluded that the poor person was subject to some sort of optical illusion. One must beware those, as well.