“Where other people were concerned, we had to drop the word ‘blame’ from our speech and thought. This required great willingness even to begin.” (Page 47, Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions)
How I feel is not their, your, the world’s fault.
Even what I ‘learned’ in childhood I chose from the range of things I might have learned.
So there’s no blame of others.
But there’s no blame of me, either in the sense of chiding, because that does not help.
What does help is recognising my responsibility and actuating change.