“If we really accept the fact that we have no authority or power over any other human being, we would not try to compel the drinker to do what we want him to.” (ODAT, 1 February)
When I ask myself why I am doing something, I discover that the motivation is often to get someone to do something differently.
There are circumstances where this is legitimate, but mostly it is not.
Even if this is legitimate, will it work? Did it work last time?
If not, best to save my breath.