“Even in cases that seem hopeless to me, I will refrain from making judgments or giving advice.” (ODAT, 1 November)
One’s never fed the full picture. You should hear the other side!
The full picture is never available even to the individual in question, because the full picture includes the trajectory to the end of time and the mycelial network of cause and effect extending infinitely in all directions from every action in the material world, like the tap of a spider’s leg against a thread of the web causing the whole web to quiver.
Get to peace first, and then you’ll know.
Help the other person get to peace, and then they’ll know.