“Some of us had a long list of grievances against the alcoholic, especially while the drinking was still active. The worst possible thing we can do is to remember them, dwell on them, and polish up our halos of martyrdom.” (ODAT, 18 August)
A modern approach is to talk about things.
Most of the solution is actually to stop talking about things.
Problems are largely solved by starvation.
Talking feeds and propagates.
I become the vector of the pathogen.
I talk only when I’ve tried absolutely everything in my knowledge and power, with the help of God, and that fails.