“If you leave such a person alone, he may soon become convinced that he cannot recover by himself.” (Page 96, Big Book)
Sometimes people say that the opposite of addiction is connection.
I’d say it’s detachment.
When people detached from me, I got sober.
When I detach from others, I get well.
Then I can relate properly, with appropriate distance and mutual recognition of private and common ground, on a non-entangled basis.
But first: disentanglement.