God’s will is the doable things of the day.
What is God’s will
for me?
Something doable.
The point of the doable
is my action.
It is not the
result. It is not the purpose. It is not the intention. It is not the motivation.
It is not the vision. It is the thing itself. It does not lift its eyes above
the task itself.
I must never seek an
objective in the world, to alter something, to improve something, to make something—or
someone—in my own image and then set about trying to achieve that, as though
that is God’s will.
Rather, I must
perform the tasks in front of me, essentially ignoring everyone else and
everything else.
Love and service are
really the same thing. Want to know what love is? Be of service. What is of service?
Something that is:
(a) Useful
(b) Requested
(c) My specific job
Service is about
doing what is required of me but not what is required of you.
My job is not to
change others’ self-image, cheer them up, fix their emotions, do for them what
they should be doing for themselves, do for them what God should be doing for
them.
Almost all service
that actually helps others is indirect. One does not help people directly. One
does certain things, and those things indirectly serve as models, or templates,
or examples, or encouragements to others to take responsibility and access
their own source of power.
Before AA, people
were trying to help me with advice and love. Neither work.
In AA, people tell
me what they do, then they turn their back and walk off. That works.
Nothing foils my progress
like intrusive attempts to promote my progress. I progress splendidly when I’m
left alone for long enough that I start talking to God.
The human-dependent
love addict needs to be starved of the ersatz dopamine hit for long enough to
seek a real supply—within.
God’s will for me is
thus not for me to try to fix, change, or control others or the world but to do
the laundry, and answer emails, and write little things, and say little things,
and do little things, minding my own business, and with no intention other than
to do this thing well. The best way to love others is thus to detach entirely
from them. Then I can do what really helps.