“If a wrathful explosion on the alcoholic’s part seems aimed at me, I will understand that it may only express his own guilt; I will not allow this to be shifted to my shoulders.” (ODAT, 29 July)
Nothing need be personalised.
Even a valid criticism is not personal. If I’m believing,
thinking, or doing something wrong, I can correct it.
I’m not what I believe, think, or do.